When A Black Man Loves - a romantic journey

Please see the color of my light(saber)

Zachary M.C. Harris
Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Maybe it’s the issue of the full moon that has brought this piece/article to fruition, because so many things have happened in the past twenty-four hours that this has to be more than a coincidence.

Yesterday, I was asked by someone online for advice in regards to how they could have men see the inner beauty within them.  It was an interesting question because probably a good eighty percent of the world’s population has that question within themselves to some degree or another; men do have the same question in regards to women.  It became more poignant when an old friend posted on his Facebook status “this little light of mine…” which was basically in accord with my answer to her.  And to top it off, I was at an event where I met a stunning beauty who was maybe an inch or two taller than me, and the words to Skee-Lo’s “I Wish” came to my mind; “I wish I was a little bit taller, I wish I was a baller…”

Since the next Star Wars is coming out, I had to do a play on words and use lightsaber, because according to the canon of the force, the color of one’s lightsaber is a direct reflection of their innermost emotions, kind of like the ring colors in the lantern corps; for those who don’t know what I am talking about, Green Lanterns hold the emotion of will.  It reminds me of the old song “Please listen to my demo” by EPMD. 

At some point, we all want someone to see us, like when Sully is finally seen for his true self in the movie Avatar.  We all have pangs of attraction, lust and love and hope that the object of our attention will recognize us and be attracted to ourselves.  And then the Chris Brown song came on’ “These Hoes Ain’t Loyal.”  It was kind of funny because at the end of the day, would you want the person who immediately jumps from your side to be with someone who will only treat them like a highly disposable commodity?

The reality is that you’re not going to win everyone’s heart, nor be able to keep everyone’s attention, so it’s the point of why even try in some cases. 

Like high school, life is shorter than you realize the older you get, and like the ocean, the more you swim through it, the more things that you will come across.  Sometimes, you will never find that person for you simply because you are swimming in two different ponds, and if you’re brave enough to dive into other waters, you’ll never know what you might reel in.

My advice to this person was to just be the best person that they could be, to work on their mind, body and soul, because as you truly evolve those elements of your life, people take notice of you and are drawn to you.  The caveat is that no matter what we do, or what we think evolution is, we can overcompensate or actually be led into the wrong direction, thinking that we are actually on the path of enlightenment.  This happens all the time.  There are no perfect answers and there are no perfect solutions, but no matter what, you have to not only work on you, but keep moving ahead.

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